If you’re a submissive, you probably have already encountered the largest barrier to getting your needs met. Distance! For people with submissive desires, there’s a huge problem you have to overcome before you can even begin to negotiate for your fantasy scenario, and that’s meeting people who are interested in domination and aren’t weird, creepy assholes out to take advantage of you. Hot single dommes in your area don’t tend to advertise, so how in the world do you find a woman willing to bend you over and peg your ass? Navigating the process of locating and then getting to know a woman is hard enough, add in your desire to bend the knee to her and you’re approaching the labors of Hercules. That’s where distance domination by phone comes in really handy.
Meet Cute Or Meet Nope
Imagine if you will, a sweetly submissive fella who just wants a hot woman to sit on his face and tell him he’s not allowed to cum yet. Oh, is that you? Sorry, didn’t mean to get so biographical, but you do project your desires quite loudly. So, there you are, horny, pent up, and in desperate need of a strong woman to laugh at you for a while while you beg. How do you go about getting those desires met? For most fellas, a round of spank the trouser snake coupled with some porn that almost matches your domination fantasy will do, in a pinch. Some guys sign up for a dating app and shoot their shot there, but that can be terribly awkward; broaching your desires with strangers who may or may not react well sounds like a great way to get your humiliation done real fast and cheap, but yikes that’s not a good way to actually meet someone compatible. Worse yet, now you’re even more horny than you were when you started swiping on the app!
Anxious Desires And Humiliating Encounters
A lot of men in your situation are deeply anxious and nervous about being open about your needs with people. True vulnerability like that feels like the worst thing in the world. Roll over and show your belly, and reveal the thing about you that makes you “not a real man”. It opens you up to humiliation and ridicule in a not-sexy way, and for a lot of submissive men in particular, it feels like a direct body blow to the ego. The mind will make up all sorts of seemingly logical reasons why you “can’t do that” and will show you imaginary scenarios in which you wind up bound and gagged in a basement and used as a sexy/not-sexy plaything (sometimes the idea is hot, sometimes it’s far less hot seeming, brains are complicated.)
Distance Domination
One way to bridge the gap between your desires and your anxious imaginings, is to make use of distance domination. The internet is a wonderful tool that facilitates communication across vast distances! And, better still, it allows you to put a layer of insulation between your true self and your fantasy self. Some of your desires may not be the best to actually live through (bound, gagged, basement, etc), but they’re still a fun way to spend a few hours on a weekend. Embrace your tool using nature and make use of communication venues and methods to get your submission/domination fantasies fulfilled. I’m very not kidding: a skype call with a Mistress who knows what you want and doesn’t judge you for it, and instead encourages and helps you get the details right? Now that hits the spot.
Up-Close Domination, Too
I’m still a huge fan of embracing your vulnerabilities and just being honest with the ladies you try to date. If she nopes out on the first date, that’s fine, you didn’t invest much effort, on to the next! But, if she gets that thoughtful look and asks you to explain more, well, you may have just found The One. Sure, it’s scary to admit you want to play serf to her Lady of the Manor, but if you never ask for it you’ll definitely never get it. If you’re still anxious and worried about bringing up your needs with your partner, it’s distance domination to the rescue yet again! Call me up and we can roleplay through what might happen if you’re honest about how you just want to be Her Throne for a day. Or how you’d like to mention to your girlfriend that you want her to fuck you in the ass and call you a little sloppy cunt.
Interested In Domination At A Distance?
Luckily you’re in the right place! Just look at all the Dominant Women writing about our own desires right here. Just because we’re not walking down the street yelling ‘here subbie subbie, c’mon, let me peg you!’ doesn’t mean we don’t exist. Take a chance, give us a call, explore your desires and maybe you’ll feel more comfortable mentioning your needs to your wife or girlfriend.
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Your Distance Domination Mistress, Harper
