I can think of few acts of submission more overt than chastity. No doubt you’re here either because you’ve made the commitment, or realize your Mistress may demand it of you soon. Or, perhaps you don’t yet have a Mistress, but your desire to commit and submit is acute. In either instance, you are likely asking yourself an age-old question: Out of all the chastity devices out there, how do I know which one is right for Me?
I’ve been asked for advice on chastity devices many times. I’ve decided to consolidate all the advice I’ve given into one post for you, Domination Bootcampers. It goes well beyond how the cage looks. And soon you’ll see why.
Your assignment is to familiarize yourself with the different choices, and then share in the comments which device you predict your Mistress will want you to wear. Or, if so far you are a free-range chastity slave, which device you have or would try until you find a keyholder willing to manage your chastity.
As a preview of what you’ll learn in this post, here are a few of the questions to contemplate:
- Will Mistress keep Me in chastity permanently, or periodically?
- How discrete must I be?
- How active am I (mostly in terms of non-sexual athletic exertion)?
- Why will I be cock-locked? Is it punitive, preventative, or symbolic?
I will approach the answers to these questions and more by the end. Ready to say goodbye to “I don’t know how to choose one” as an excuse for failure to submit in this unique way?
Let’s begin!
Chastity Devices: Choose the Material
Or rather, be informed as to why your Mistress may have chosen the material She did.
Most chastity devices are made of one or more of the following:
- leather or imitation leather
- some kind of metal,
- rubber
- some kind of plastic (I’m including both silicone and resin in this category)
Those made of rubber or leather are most useful in scene play rather than for extended wear. They are flexible, which is good for comfort, but possible to wriggle free from or cut through (don’t assume you’re above such an act of rebellion in the depths of long-term orgasm denial, slut).
The Oxballs Atomic Jock Cock Lock. It’s obviously not going to keep you denied. But fun for a scene! Click the pic to learn more.
Also, depending on which material or the quality, it may not be waterproof. You can’t (or shouldn’t) get real leather wet, for example. Such chastity devices can be difficult to keep clean, not to mention to keep yourself clean and your skin healthy if you try to wear them for daily cock security. Lastly, they may not be very durable in the long run.
These may be good for experimentation, however, if you’re a newbie. These are often inexpensive, so it’s safe to purchase one, and see how it feels to have your cock confined. Your Mistress likely won’t settle on one of these, unless, as previously noted, chastity is more about temporary restriction during episodic play than ongoing cock control.
Plastic Chastity
Chastity devices made of one kind of plastic or another are probably the most popular. Not because they’re the best, necessarily, but because they’re the most cost effective to manufacture, and therefore the most reasonably priced of all the long-term wear options. You can find plastic chastity devices for as little as $30 and as much as $200 (or more).
The biggest mistake I see aspiring chastity pets make is that they go for the bargain, thinking all plastic, and all manufacturers, are the same. I’ve said it many times elsewhere, and I’ll say it again: you get what you pay for. I’m not saying you can never rely on quality when you get the cheapest of anything. But it’s a gamble. One that more often than not you (or your wallet) will lose.
So why such a big range in prices?
Just what I said. You get what you pay for.
I hinted at it when I included a few different things under the “plastic” umbrella above. Your Made-in-China CB3000 knockoff from Amazon may use a lower quality plastic. Time will make that clear. There can also be corners cut in production. That makes for chastity devices that are more liable to crack, split the tube, a ring that pinches or a lock that fails, vent and waste holes that are juuust a bit off, or even a tube that becomes scratched or cloudy after repeated cleanings because it’s beginning to degrade.
Believe Me, I’ve seen it.
This is the CB3000. Click on the pick to learn more, but check out the CB-X site where you may find a better price.
You want to present your chastised cock and balls to your Mistress with the whole denied package looking its best, don’t you? You don’t want Her to confuse wear and tear with attempted sabotage, and miss out on that longed-for upcoming release event, do you?
Plus, the only suffering I want you endure for Me while cock-locked is from swollen, aching blue balls and psychological torment as you struggle to surrender your will and libido. Not from rashes or chafing or pinches, which are all reactions chastity pets in My acquaintance have experienced when they “cheaped out”.
Pursue quality.
Stick with reputable manufacturers of plastic chastity devices. Read reviews. Look for the words “medical grade”, whether polycarbonate (CB-X, Locked In Lust) or silicone (Birdlocked). Resin is a lighter-weight option with just as much durability and quality (Holy Trainer). Also, resin is derived from partly non-synthetic sources, so if you sometimes experience irritation or an allergic reaction to synthetic materials, it might suit you better.
Silicone warms and molds to the body over time, so much so that many who wear silicone chastity devices forget they have them on after a while. Athletes or those with active lifestyles tend to love them. They’re also very comfortable to sleep in.
Further, if you travel a lot, and if the model you choose is compatible with plastic serial-numbered keys, a silicone device is almost undetectable on body scans or by the TSA.
It doesn’t breathe all that well though, so make sure to choose a model with plenty of vent holes. Also, plan to clean yourself, and the device, regularly.
Under supervision, of course.
The above represent strong, quality materials and engineering. One style or shape may suit you better than another (the type of lock, how ergonomic it is for discretion purposes, how many pieces there are to keep track of, the unique dimensions or orientation of your cock, etc.), but those are really the only differences.
Metal: The Luxe of Chastity Devices
Surgical steel chastity devices (like Mature Metal) are the top of the line in almost all categories by which a chastity device can be judged. They are the most secure and hardest to sabotage. Many Mistresses feel they are the best-looking, and most high-end brands are customizable. They usually have a lot more ventilation, and therefore are easiest to clean, even without removing them. They are definitely the most durable.
That said, what makes them so durable and secure can also make them obtrusive, whether to you or to someone to whom you’d rather not disclose, like the TSA, that you’re in chastity. Further, it can be difficult to get used to exercising and sleeping in them.
The Mature Metal Pet Trap. Click the pic for details, customization and ordering information.
These are an investment. It may take some doing to get them customized just right, and they’re less forgiving if you neglect to do so. They can also be quite expensive.
But if your Mistress plans to keep you in chastity permanently, it’s worth it. Perhaps have plastic device for backup or breaks for cleaning.
And so, class: What have W/e learned?
Which chastity device is right for you? Perhaps you’ll want to invest in more than one, like a surgical steel model for most waking hours, and a silicone for sleep. Perhaps you need to look at them, or show them to your Mistress, before you decide. She may have opinions about how She wants Her property wrapped. After all, your submission, and thus your chastised cock and balls, are a gift for Her.
Share in the comments which of the chastity devices has your Mistress’ name on it, whether you know Her well or have yet to meet Her.
And remember, no matter which device you choose, keep yourself and your device clean, be attentive to any unpleasant sensations that don’t pass with time, and always use a bit of lube when re-locking as an extra layer of chafing prevention.
If you have more questions, or perhaps have a vision of the key to your device hanging from My finger and would like to follow through on that, please feel free to get in touch.
xx
Goddess Rachel, Domina of Chastity and Beyond
1-800-356-6169
P.S.: Listen in below for another assignment you can complete. You may not think you’re ready for chastity. Perhaps it’s something about which you’re still fantasizing only. Why not deepen the fantasy? Listen to how to take your measurements for a chastity device, and write the figures down on a little piece of paper. Keep the paper anywhere you might see it regularly, as accessible as your privacy situation allows.
Then look at it every day.
Tell yourself, “those are the margins of my freedom”.
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A Great and knowledgeable post on chastity devices Mistress Rachel.
No doubt Mature Metal devices are the Cadillac of chastity cages… They look amazing. Also because they are made to order they are your exact size. They are also comfortable and easy to clean for long term (or permanent ) wear. But … I think a chastity slave should try a plastic or resin cage first before spending the money….but when you’re ready … it is worth it.
I have also found the CBX series quite good. They are also a more moderate price… I’ve worn the CB6000 and CB6000s. Both are easy to wear and are particularly good with metal detectors ….if you use a plastic numbered lock.
My favorite non metal cage …by far…. is the Holy trainer… it’s made of a kind of resin that warms and gets more flexible with the heat of your body. They’re Sooooo comfy that I can forget it’s on! I own the the ‘nub’ in sparky pink… which is quite tiny (.98 inch) but there are bigger sizes.
Speaking of size …. Wearers should get the smallest tube that they can comfortably fit into. Contrary to what you’d think…. If there is room to grow in the cage it will be more uncomfortable…. A Zero growth .. 100% limp policy is best in chastity for comfort and control
Having said that … the base ring on any device should NOT be too tight. If it’s too snug it could cut circular off… which is not good.
One last thing… the Locked in Lust cages seem cool, and perhaps they have improved their quality recently … but I had one 2 or 3 years ago and it cracked along the seem… so I can’t recommend them.
Having said all that .. I adore Keyholders! I pray you Keeping locking up unworthy dickies Ms Rachel!
Hello prissy!
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your knowledge about chastity devices from the wearer’s perspective! I concur with everything you wrote, though I was sorry to read about your experience with the Holy Trainer.
And yes, as I think I mention in the instructional audio, you’ll not want a cage that’s too tight OR too loose. Too tight, and as you say, there are circulation and elimination problems, and too loose, aside from the fact that it compromises the security of the device, there’s a lot more chance for skin irritation because the ring can move back and forth, and therefore rub the skin in the same place over and over.
I’m glad you liked the post, prissy, and once again, very much appreciate your input!
Mistress Rachel, this is Sissy Slut Samantha. I have worn a chastity device only once. I sessioned with a domme in Washington DC during a business trip years ago. She was Russian and very strict. Her first step was to put my cock in a plastic and metal chastity device. With the key around her neck she used me as her totally submitted slave for two hours. Then she made me get dressed a leave still wearing the device. I had to come back the next day and she made me beg her to remove it. It has been years but I still jack off to that kinky memory.
Thanks for another excellent post.
Miss Rachel, i was told by my significant other if i keep wearing the very small chastity cage She has me wear that my little sissy clit will shrink down to about one inch so it wont show when She makes me wear Her panties. So far i have been wearing the chastity cage for months, and my sissy clit has not shrunk much at all! …..As much as i beg HER to take it off She refuses to…..Miss Rachel,whats a submissive sissy boi slut like me do? Can YOU help me?
Thank YOU so much!
Wow Ms Rachel!
What a comprehensive guide! Clearly (If anyone was foolish enough to think otherwise) you know your $hit , Woman!
Now you’ve left the pets with one nagging thought in their mind. How quickly can I get one and go into chastity for you! ????????
See you around the EMPIRE! ????
You know Miss Rachel, when it comes to my chastity I’ve been pretty lucky…or not, with my purchases to date.
My first was a little resin number…(pink, natch!) with the 3 different sized rings.
Up to that point I’d only been caged once before. I wrote of it somewhere on the Empire but for life of me cannot recall on whose blog. Long story VERY short, a Dominatrix put me in a metal cage that was intended for someone of a larger stature. The humiliation of cage and ring sliding off and clanking on the floor was worth the price of submission! Or admission.
But back to pinky. It was from a large online retailer and at a reasonable cost.
Uncomfy? Not really…more unfamiliar but I was motivated to experience and it was fine.
Every guy will experience a pinch or crunch from time to time, totally expected.
But “pinky” was just too …ahem, roomy.
The second cage I purchased…a little metal device…(which I’m sure many chastity pets are wearing) I like to call “iron-micro”
It fits great, I love it and wear it comfortably for hours on end!
Much to Mistress Erika’s satisfaction. Chastity is more fun when you do it for someone.
But I would say, that I have had great success with my chastity cages…perhaps beginners luck, and I am just itching to pull the trigger on a smaller one…isn’t that the idea?
Miss Rachel you have such interesting topics, I must get caught up! Thank you.
Hello there, Samantha!
Thank you for reading, and for sharing that kinky memory with the group! I’m sure it made many, caged and uncaged alike, tingle and swell!
Hi sissyboidonna!
When in doubt, simply obey your Mistress! She knows best. She may have other reasons for having you press on that She chooses not to share, which is Her prerogative.
I would never dream of superseding the authority of another Domme over Her slave, but if She gives you permission to whine–I mean, seek advice from another Mistress, you are welcome to arrange for a session.
Thanks for reading!
Hello, My delightful Sister Mistress Erika! Always a joy to see that you’ve read one of My posts, and the height of titillation to know that I have tickled your fancy and intrigued your formidable intellect!
xoxo
Hello, little peg!
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with chastity! Just goes to underscore the point that there are more reasons to choose one chastity device or another (or your Mistress to do so) than how well it fits!
I’m glad you enjoyed the post, and hope you will find others similarly enjoyable! If you do, please do share your thoughts! It’s a delight to know that I or what I’ve written have resonated with someone!
Miss Rachel,Thank YOU for reading my problem with my small chastity cage. I will follow YOUR advice that YOU gave me,and i will OBEY what YOU tell me to do….i am sure that when my little clitty gets small where She wants it She will give me to one of HER Black DOMINANT Masters. And i think that He will take me as HIS white boi slave,and use me for Himself,and maybe later He will trade me to another Black Master!
Thank YOU Miss Rachel,i will always Worship n Adore YOU and OBEY YOU!
sissyboidonna
Best of luck, sissyboidonna!
Ah yes, chastity. So seductive and alluring. The desire to be locked and to relinquish control. But not pinched and scraped. I agree that if this is the path you choose, it is worth the money and the care to buy the best device. I have tried the less expensive plastic ones and although they might give an initial sense of what it is to be locked you need to move on from there to something simpler. The fewer working parts, the better. A well sized fixed ring and a short sleeve that attaches simply are best for me.
At first I worried about the length of the cage. I ended up with someting too long and much of the time i barely reached halfway through. Shorter is better, snug is fine. That is what you are there for. It is locked for a reason. Get used to it. Enjoy the reality. There is something comforting about being locked.
i prefer metal and with sufficient holes to allow air to flow and for greater ease of cleaning. Plus it looks and feels sooo sexy. Metal is heavier than plastic but you can used to that and a snug pair of panties can help. As a sissy I appreciate that sissies should be locked and pantied. Smooth will eliminate the pulling of pubic hair. Waxed is better than shaved.
The critical feature is the ring. Sizing is very important so as to not cut off circulation. You want it snug enough to be locked in place but loose enough to be safe. I think a single solid ring is best rather than one that opens as that can cause pinching and adds an unnecessary element. It may be little difficult to get those pesty balls through but it can be done, one at a time, and then my sissy clit can make its way through and into the cage.
So, let’s make it real. Metal. Simple design, A cage that is no longer that my clitty when it is soft, like the size coming in from a swim in cold ocean water and circumference to match. The right size ring around the scrotum. Locked is best Be careful what you ask for but I know that this is what a sissy needs to become her best self.
Thanks so much for your input, Susan! I think many will find it helpful, and even inspirational!
Thanks for the helpful article Miss Rachel! I’m sure if I were to venture into the world of chastity I would need a silicone one. Sounds great for my bike riding and frequent travel lifestyle.
Agreed on the silicone, My D.
And you know what the D stands for, don’t you? 😛