“No limits” is a dangerous phrase for anyone to use.
(Catch up on Part 1 here) If you encounter a Top or Dom/me who claims to have no limits, or worse, they’re looking for a sub with no limits– RUN the other way. This is a major red flag; it’s language that predatory abusers often use when prowling for new and inexperienced victims under the guise of BDSM. Make no mistake, they are looking for a victim, not a play partner. A sub who blithely declares “I have no limits” will likely encounter more than a few of these pseudo Dom/mes trying to take advantage of a situation. Don’t be that sub. Put some thought into the things you like, the things you might like to experiment with, and the things you know you NEVER want to try.
Having limits, & being able to communicate what they are, are EXTREMELY important to having the best experience in BDSM.
Dom/mes and subs all have limits, but finding ones whose kinks and limits align closely with your own will give you an edge to making the most out of your exploration in BDSM. Knowing what kinks you have in common, letting your Dominant know which kinks you might be willing to try, and which ones you know you will NEVER want to attempt gives a much better framework for guiding you on your journey as a submissive. Used along with safe words, that knowledge gives your Dominant an idea of how best to play with you and make the most of your gift of submission, without taking things in a direction you never intended, and never wanted to go.
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