I hear all kinds of risque confessions as a Mistress.
One of the most dangerous phrases is a submissive eagerly telling me “I have no limits.” This is literally one of the most hazardous things anyone who’s into BDSM can say, and why I strongly discourage anyone from saying it. I have no idea where the motivation for saying “I have no limits” as though it’s a good thing, a badge of honor, or a mark in your favor for consideration in serving a Dominant comes from, but please, please, for the love of all that’s safe, sane, and consensual: STOP.
EVERYONE has limits.
EVERYONE has something they’re not into, and everyone has something they will never enjoy. You wouldn’t jump off a cliff, starve yourself for a week, or commit a violent crime just because someone told you to–or if you would, you seriously need to re-examine your self-worth, respect, and esteem.
A sissy who adores being my itty bitty dress-up dolly might bolt if I mention extreme CBT; and an extreme CBT addict might bolt if I say today’s session won’t involve pain–just ribbons and petticoats & tea parties while I sang him a lullaby and called him a good girl.
The point is: everyone has their kinks and the things that leave them cold.
Everyone has things that make them excited and send a tidal wave of desire, anticipation, and adrenaline racing through their blood–just like everyone has things they’d just as soon never experience. NO ONE has the right to tell you your limits aren’t valid, or that having limits somehow makes you “less” of a submissive than one who either doesn’t know any better, or doesn’t value themselves highly enough to have them. It’s your body, your choice, and only YOU get to decide what is done to it, who gets to use it, and how.
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