Bondage isn’t just about tying someone up.

Those who know me well know I love my ropes. Yes, I’ll use chains, manacles, spreader bars, and handcuffs, but I have a true love and abiding passion for ropes of all kinds, as well as the knotty boys & girls who enjoy them (Ms. Daphne knows this from 1st hand experience).

However, my love of the different types and lengths of rope goes far beyond the tactile sensation of twisting cords of different textures over a willing submissive’s body.

It is knowing that by the act of them surrendering their autonomy so completely, they are engaging in one of the most powerful & total displays of trust, faith, and submission that exist in the lifestyle. It is a gift I always cherish.

Bondage fulfills many needs.

And there are several reasons why bondage is beloved by me and my subs, but perhaps the most overlooked is safety.

Mistress Lilly loves bondage!

Safety (my side)

Some submissives love to wriggle about, and squirming can get unintentionally hazardous in impact play sessions if they start shifting beyond a ‘safe’ strike zone. I actually specialize in bondage with multiple anchor points, specifically to make sure a sub is totally immobile & therefore incapable of accidentally wriggling in a way that will lead to them getting hurt.

Safety (sub’s side)

By giving themselves totally to me, and feeling the ropes binding them gently, yet securely, some subs have told me it’s rather like being swaddled or cradled. In fact, some of my real time subs that struggle with anxiety or insomnia brought on by racing thoughts find that being securely bound calms them, soothes them, and will even let them achieve a deep and restful sleep.

Safety (extremes of emotion)

There was an occasion where I had a sub who’d previously had a issue with cutting and self-mutilation. Under my guidance, she was improving, and then someone very dear to her died. She came to me pleading to be tied and kept that way. She was afraid of what she’d do to herself if left with use of her limbs, her mind was racing down dark paths ,and she couldn’t get it to stop. She spent the next 3 days in various multi-layered body harnesses, and the next 3 nights in ties that bound her to a cushioned rope hammock, while I sang her lullabies and rocked her to sleep. After 3 days, the crisis was over, and she was still grieving, but calmer and confident that she wouldn’t hurt herself.

Bondage can be an act of love for both both a Dom/me and a submissive, as well as a caring act of intervention.

 

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