Hi, guys, it’s me, Ms. Kay Marie, your favorite phone sex Mistress, who’s here to talk to you today about Femdom phone sex and why it’s amazing!

You see, a lot of submissives don’t realize their desires as soon as they become adults. Many of them, particularly submissive men, have been socialized to be the strong leader of a group. Therefore, they don’t immediately recognize some of their wants as submissive. It takes a long time and a lot of soul-searching (and Google searching!) to figure everything out. And that’s okay! If you knew at 18 that you were submissive, that’s great. But if you didn’t find out until later in life, there’s nothing wrong with that, either. Both youth and experience have their benefits, so just work with what you have, I say.

Femdom Phone Sex Is Safe, Sane, And Consensual

If you’ve done any research about BDSM, you’ve likely run across one or both of the following acronyms: SSC and/or RACK.

SSC stands for “safe, sane, and consensual.” RACK stands for “risk-aware consensual kink.” SSC is the older term and the one I learned when I first got started in the Femdom phone sex lifestyle. RACK came along a bit later. It was coined to acknowledge that not all kink can be classified as “safe.” There are certain kinks that require you to be risk-aware, and RACK was meant to recognize that.

That being said, I usually stick with SSC, as it’s what I’m most comfortable with. And I can tell you right now that Femdom phone sex with me is always safe, sane, and consensual. The consensual aspect is, of course, the most important part. If everyone involved doesn’t consent, it’s an automatic no-go. But after everyone consents, safety and sanity are also very important. And what could possibly be safer and saner than exploring your desires from the comfort and safety of your own home with a phone Mistress like me?

Exploring Over The Phone With Your Mistress

Yes, you can always go out and explore your desires with a real-life Dominatrix, be she professional or lifestyle. And sometimes, I encourage my submissives to do so! But when you’re first getting started in the Femdom community, meeting someone new and building trust takes time. And if you’re really excited about exploring your fantasies and fetishes, you may not want to take the necessary time to do those things. Bypassing them can be dangerous, though. So why not safely, sanely, and consensually explore them over the phone with your Femdom phone sex Mistress?

In this way, you won’t be compromising your safety by speed-running the “getting to know you” part. As a wise friend of mine once said, “Phone subs can always let you know they don’t consent to something by hanging up!”

Communication Is Key In All D/s Relationships

Of course, we don’t want it to get to that point. And as long as we’re both communicating properly, it won’t. You tell me what’s on your mind when you call me for your Femdom phone sex session. I listen and ask questions where appropriate. (And believe me when I tell you I like to ask a lot of questions! I love learning about the guys who call me, so I tend to err on the side of too much information, rather than not enough. That, too, helps with the safety aspect of the whole thing, in my opinion.)

Once we’ve both sort of agreed on where we want our session to go, then we can launch right into it. If you want to be feminized, cuckolded, fucked with a strap on, or most any other Femdom-type fantasy, I’m willing to give it a go. That is, as long as you’re consenting enthusiastically. I do have some limits, naturally. But that’s a post for another day!

So my advice to you, if you’re new to BDSM, is not to let the proverbial “sub frenzy” get to you. (Sub frenzy is when you get so excited about the idea of submitting that all concern for health and safety go out the window.) Instead, try a Femdom phone sex call with a responsible phone Mistress like me or any of my lovely LDW friends.