One of the scariest things for a submissive is the fearsome spectre of disappointing your Mistress. Admit it, you don’t want to let us down! That’s a good thing, but if your fear of getting things wrong, or making a mistake, is holding you back from committing to service for your Mistress, that trepidation can be not very good at all. Let your concern guide you towards mindful action and deliberation in the service of your dominant Mistress, but don’t let the pursuit of perfection be what keeps you from serving at all!
How To Avoid Disappointing Your Mistress
Sure, never picking up the phone to call for a session is one way to not disappoint your Mistress. However, refusing to act is also a choice. The decision to avoid disappointment by never interacting with your Mistress is the wrong one. Likewise, choosing to serve a Mistress and then half-assing your way through the instructions and guidance she gives you is another poor choice. You need to thread the needle, so to speak: take the plunge, and then do your best. Brats are only brats if they’re funny about how they “disobey”; if your disobedience isn’t amusing on some level, and your Mistress indicates she doesn’t like that sort of stuff from you, you should cut it out.
Brats and Domination/Submission Games
Some Mistresses like a cute brat. They’re often called ‘brat tamers’, and go out looking for hilariously irreverent submissives that enjoy playing hard to get, or those who need a little firmness to settle down into their obedience. There’s nothing wrong with being a brat, if your Mistress finds it cute, or a fun challenge. However, before you bring out your bratty side, make sure your Mistress is pretty OK with it. An unwanted brat is a great way to really disappoint your Mistress. Sometimes, you can clown a little and refuse to obey. Other times, you better jump when I say!
Avoiding Disappointment Shouldn’t Be Literal!
I get that you probably don’t want to disappoint your Mistress, and so you may feel inclined to avoid situations in which you might do so. Cut that out. Yes, you can’t disappoint me if you never call, because I won’t even know you exist. However, you won’t have very much fun that way! Submissives that literally avoid their Mistress, or run away and try to hide if they’re given a more difficult instruction are no fun at all. Don’t you trust your Mistress? Don’t you trust me?! Tell me if the instruction is too hard, or if you don’t think you can accomplish it. Playing possum and refusing to answer or engage when a command seems too hard, or isn’t what you want to be doing, is not how you make your Mistress happy in the long run.
Obey Your Mistress
Mindfulness in your actions can make it easier to navigate your BDSM fetish dynamic. When your Mistress gives you a command that you may not feel super inclined to obey, for whatever reason, ask Her to let you explain your hesitation. Some situations will fall more on the ‘do as I say because I said so’, possibly because She has an ulterior motive or larger plan in mind. But often whatever issue you may have can be worked through, together, so you both are happy. You don’t have to disappoint your Mistress by being a naughty, disobedient submissive. Instead, you can disappoint Her because you’re weak and pathetic. (Or have a too-small penis!) Careful attention to how you obey your Mistress is always a great way to avoid disappointing your Mistress though.
Ready To Submit?
Stop avoiding your desires and needs, and make a plan to submit to a Mistress’ control today. Even if it’s scary, and you’re afraid you’ll disappoint your Mistress, just by reaching out and taking the first steps you can start to move towards being much less of a disappointing submissive waste of space. Start now, by leaving a comment with your desire to be submissive, and what you’d love to do to serve your Mistress. And then email me and ask for a phone domination session. I promise you will only disappoint me if you maliciously disobey. We can have so much fun together!
Your Domination Mistress, Harper
