What is Primal Sex?
At its core, primal play is about releasing your inhibitions and allowing your most primitive sexual instincts take over, fucking like cave people from days gone past, no shame, no dignity. Raw, sexual passion. Primal sex refers to a form of sexual expression that taps into basic, instinctual motivations and drives. It is characterized by a return to fundamental desires that harken back to more raw, primitive encounters forbidden by polite society. This might include rougher play, elements of domination and submission, and a focus on the physical sensations over emotional intimacy typically found in other forms of sexual encounters. The concept aligns with a broader understanding of primal behavior in sex that can invoke deep, instinctual responses in people. This can include a focus of predator/prey dynamics, biting, kicking, scratching, physical hand to hand combat as well as savage fucking.
Why Do People Engage in Primal Sex?
People engage in primal sex for a variety of reasons, including:
1. Exploration of Raw Desires: It allows individuals to reconnect with their most basic instincts and desires, often feeling more alive and present during such encounters. You can shuck off the restraints of polite society and allow your savage, primitive side to rear its head. There really isn’t any place for inhibitions in a fight for survival and when done right, that’s exactly what primal sex can evoke.
2. Power Dynamics: For some, the act of domination and submission can be incredibly fulfilling, providing a safe space to explore power dynamics that are often absent in daily life. Many people will exclusively take one role- predator or prey, hunter or hunted, or some (like me) enjoy embodying both roles in the same sessions. But people love power dynamics for all the same reasons they love BDSM in general- it breaks up mundane routines, allows you to embrace repressed or oppressed aspects of the self, it is a full mind-body experience.
3. Sensory Experiences: The physicality of primal play can heighten sensory experiences, focusing on touch, sounds, and movements, enhancing arousal. When we shut down our prefrontal cortex, our brains can focus on our senses, which helps with survival as well as deepening the sensual pleasure of any experience. There is no moment I feel MORE than when I am engaged in primal sex.
4. Escapism: Engaging in primal sex can provide a form of escapism, allowing individuals to break from the pressures of everyday life. It allows for both playfulness and rage to exist side by side, and each party can take on new and novel personalities and traits.
5. Self-Discovery: Many participants find primal play a pathway to self-exploration and understanding their deeper sexual identities. I speak a lot about living in our wholeness, and about the pieces of our self we give up in order to be accepted. Primal play is one of the ways I rediscover those missing, exiled parts of myself.
6. Connection with Partners: Engaging in primal activities can deepen emotional bonds between partners by allowing a shared exploration of vulnerability and trust. Experiencing this type of thrilling, emotional sexual experience with someone changes your relationship for the better, I have always found. I liken it to seeing a band play live versus listening to them on the radio. Once you have the experience of the live music, feeling it move through your body, you always feel a bit more connected towards that band, dont you?
7. Empowerment through Release: For some, releasing societal constraints and expectations through primal engagement can be powerful and liberating, adding to the sexual pleasure of the experience. Being the hunter, stalking your prey, ready to take from them is wildly exciting and allows you to release the constraints of polite society. And the experience of true surrender is absolutely freeing for many.
Why Do *I* Love Primal Play?
Well, take a listen and find out…
Click to listen to Ms Becky explain what she personally loves about primal sex.
Role-Playing Scenarios and Ideas for Couples
Here are some role-playing scenarios for couples looking to explore primal play:
1. Predator and Prey: One partner takes on the role of a predator, while the other becomes prey. This could involve chase elements, capturing, and playful wrestling to simulate primitive survival instincts.
2. Alpha and Beta Dynamics: Couples can explore social hierarchies within the primal context, with one being the assertive alpha in decision-making and control while the other revels in following and submission.
3. Rough Housing: Engaging in playful wrestling or rough play can tap into primal instincts; but keep in mind that setting boundaries is crucial for safety and comfort. I would recommend having a full discussion of what sexual and rough housing acts are permitted (scratching, biting, hitting, kicking) as well as intensity and location. Allow scratching is one thing, but allowing scratching on your face may be a whole other thing, right?
4. Primitive, Instinctive Sounds: Incorporate growls, snarls, or growls into intimacy, encouraging participants to communicate desire through more raw, instinctual sounds. It is completely shocking how much allowing my body to make the noises it wants affects my sexuality. I am one loud bitch, as many of my callers and lovers can attest to, but I wasnt always. I had to learn how to release my vocal chords to allow them to be completely free to do what they want. That is one of the many benefits of primal play.
5. Nature-based Scenarios: Recreate a wild or natural setting, emphasizing movement and primal survival instincts. Fuck barefoot and naked in the dirt- but be very mindful of the law and make sure you are somewhere you won’t be discovered.
Tips for Primal Sex Play
1. In all scenarios, communication and consent are paramount. Establishing safe words and checking in with partners about comfort levels ensures that both individuals can fully enjoy the experience while maintaining safety and trust. Because we are playing with survival instincts here, it is really important to be connected with your partner throughout and I highly recommend that you leave the ball gag at home- not just because it could reduce the engagement with those instictive sounds I love so much, but also because it could interfere with one partner’s ability to freely communicate.
2. Warm up vocal chords and prepare for some soothing throat treatments after you play. Ive often found that I need some throat TLC after a wild scene.
3. Be mindful of your surroundings. Ensure that you are playing someplace that is safe and secure and that will not result in you being put on a list, yes?
4. Be diligent about aftercare. We are playing with our nervous systems, so we want to really establish safety after a scene. Some cuddling, kisses, soft words of safety are very much in order after a primal scene.
In conclusion, primal sex represents a fascinating intersection of psychology and sexual behavior, allowing individuals to explore fundamental desires in a safe and consensual way. If you’re curious to delve deeper or have specific questions, I’d love to continue the conversation! You can find me at intelligentphonesexcalls.com, on twitter @msbeckyenchants or email me at becky@enchantrixempire.com.
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